‘Don’t judge me until you have walked a mile in my shoes’

This is part of a very old saying which is very true. 


People like to gossip and judge the behaviour of others because it makes them feel them feel better about themselves and their lives. It makes them feel smug and better than the person or people they are judging.


Actually nobody has the right to judge you until they have been in your shoes and had your experiences of life. Standing on the outside and criticising is easy if you don’t have the facts and haven’t had the experiences. Judgements of others are unkind. They are damaging, most often harsh and always unforgiving. Judgements are nearly always based on assumptions and opinions but rarely on facts or truth.


Judgements about you are actually worth nothing if the people making them have not had your experiences, lived your life and been in your situation. They are not based on kindness and truth and certainly not the truth of you as a person.


Judgemental gossip lacks help, truth, kindness and compassion and it should be ignored for the malicious nonsense that it is. It has no value and if you do not respect the people doing it then do not take it on board as your truth for it is not and never will be.


Mostly people do the best they can in life and do not need to be pulled down by other peoples’ negative words and thoughts which are often based on jealousy and anger.


The Thoughtful Sage.

Sue Stothard. http://www.unfoldingenlightenment.com 



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